I started this blog before Christmas 2016. I started it the way I start most things, by jumping right in to the deep end, and then figuring out how to swim.
I’m a Social Worker by training, so the idea of a blog that reflected my values of social awareness, my interest in my community, my desire to facilitate a space where parenting, and kid issues were discussed appealed to me. I also wanted a space where parents were seen as not only parents, but developing beings, with their own separate issues and needs. I love to write, I am a parent, I have parenting, relationship, and my own issues, and I know others do too, so I thought, what a great opportunity to combine all of this here.
I’ve learnt a lot of things along the way. The most important thing I’ve learnt is, that when something doesn’t work out how you thought, when it isn’t a passion, for whatever reason, DON’T DO IT. So i’m not. It’s not a hard choice, it’s a not a failure, it’s a lesson.
There actually were a lot of lessons here. I started the blog after I had done a bit of work for a popular local blogger. I enjoyed the work, I loved it. There were so many aspects of it that hit on passions for me. But it ended up being a disappointment. She was happy with my work, ran it, but never paid as per her offer. 30 days late, 60 days late, here I sit, 9 months later, never paid. I politely inquired, she promised, but never delivered. For many months I was upset and felt that she valued me so little that she would treat me so poorly. I took it as a hit to my value as a person. It wasn’t till I discussed it with a friend that she pointed out that it really spoke more about the blogger than it did about me. It spoke about her issues and character and not about my value. So I had to release myself from this one. And I did.
A week or so ago this same blogger posted a rant on IG, that a blogger friend had unfriended and blocked HER after she used a font similiar to her friend’s. “Why can’t we build each other up” she asked? “Why do we do this petty blocking?” Yup, I wondered that too, when she did that to me after not paying and congratulating me on my new blog. Congrats ! BLOCK. UNFRIEND. When she posted this I wondered if she thought about the fact that she was now on the receiving end of what she did to me that was upsetting and unnecessary all those months ago?
So I unburdened myself of that, and left it where it belonged. Not in my home.
And today I look back, I learnt a $200 lesson. I now look at the situation with gratitude. I am grateful for the lesson, and that she allows her lovely lovely daughter to still knock on our door and play with my lovely lovely son. A childhood friendship is important.
I’ve learnt that although I thought this blog would nourish me, it didn’t. I learnt I’m not the kind of person who wants to spend the amount of time needed online to run something like this. It doesn’t fit for me.
I’ve learnt that it’s really all a journey, and I’m not sure where mine is taking me. It took me here for a few lessons, and I’ll see where it takes me next.
So the blog is…. on hiatus. I may come back to it, or I may not. But I will always come back to the lessons I’ve learnt, and use them as teaching tools in my life.
All the best, in all you all do !